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Showing posts with label ADD. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 7, 2015

On Behalf of the Children

Last night I had the privilege of attending a focus group meeting for a new support group starting in my area.  There were about a dozen people there, most of them women.  This particular groups' focus was getting off prescription meds for various mental health issues.  There we were discussing techniques and alternative options for keeping healthy while eliminating or in some cases reducing them.

 We were all in various points on our journey.  Some having just begun to consider their options, others had already quit using 'meds' either on their own, or with help.

Photo by Serge Bertasius Photography from freedigitalphotos.net
This is the thing that struck and saddened me.  Some of these people had been on meds basically their whole lives.   The ages of the group varied.  As did the age each person started meds.  Here's the thing, some of them were put on meds as children.  One person shared that she was six years old!  Six years!  Others ten, thirteen, it varied.  But the problem they are facing now is the fear of leaving meds behind not knowing who they would be?

Pharmaceutical medications for various ailments can be and are a good thing.  Honestly they saved my life, and the lives of many people I know.  Life can be very difficult.  Childhood can be very difficult for a lot of us.  But meds at 6 yrs old?  Some of these women had been on these meds for decades, dealing with all the side efffects, and mental issues they come with.

Now I have to say here that I don't know any of their stories.  Nor do I know what they are doing now as far as self-care.  The fact that there they were in a support group for getting off meds tells me that these people are awake and do care about their health.  None of that is my point.

My point is for the sake of our children, please do your research.  I find it hard to believe that people at 6 years of age need such medications.  One mentioned ADD.  Some of them were on more than a few heavy duty meds ( one woman on about a dozen).  It's a vicious cycle created by the meds, the doctors prescribing them, and the pharmaceutical companies.  But there has to be a better way! Especially for a child.

Children are all different.  There is no one size fits all for them, or for any of us for that matter. While there are serious mental health conditions that warrant the use of such drugs I would challenge you as parents to look deeper.  Having gone off these meds myself over the past few months I am
seeing that it's really going to come down to nutrition and exercise to keep me in a place that I can remain off of them.  What it came down to in the end for me was healing all the underlying pain and old blocked emotions that had been in me affecting everything I did and everything I thought.  It all began with finding a good naturopath who found a holistic way of helping me mind, body, and spirit. She did find I have a couple of things that needed supplements and attention for they were throwing my whole body off.

I have seen other children diagnosed with various behavioural issues and had to wonder.  I know this American diet wreaks havoc with our systems from top to bottom.   I have read of kids who have remained med free with diet changes.  I have read of many children being diagnosed with medical issues when really what was going on was they were misunderstood.  Highly sensitive, intuitive or empathic children are often misunderstood and well meaning parents seek professional help for finding out what is 'wrong' with their child.  Nothing is wrong with our children except possibly their diet.

And diet is only one thing we can try.  Meditation, therapy, techniques for dealing with stress and overwhelm, accupuncture, even hypnosis!

Now don't get me wrong I am not a perfect parent.  No one is.  And I am aware that we are all just doing our best and wanting the best for our kids.  It just broke my heart hearing these beautiful women express their unhappiness with their current prescription meds and all their side effects while at the same time bravely sharing their great fear of not being on them anymore since they were children when they started taking them.

Parenting is a tough job.  It is my opinion that this society we've created makes it even tougher.  But for the children's sake please look deeper.  Do your research. Ask questions.  Find out what's troubling them.  People, all people just need to be cared for and understood.  Not medicated.  Take it from me, that drug induced apathy and stupor is no way to live.


Just about to publish this when I found this in my inbox:  Are statin drugs the cause of widespread decline in brain function?  "You can't poison a crucial enzyme or block an important receptor for the long-term and expect a good result," explained Dr. Brownstein in his book Drugs That Don't Work and Natural Therapies That Do.   Click the link below to see the full article.


Now I realize that statins are for cholesterol, but how many warnings do we need?  In Dr. Bruce Liptons book called The Biology of Belief he makes the point that we cannot put chemicals in our body and expect them to only work on the cells they are supposed to work on,  We really have no idea what effects these things are going to have on all of our cells. 

Friday, May 4, 2012

Adventures of an ADD crafter

Have you ever started a project?  You know the feeling, you find a new craft, or get an idea online, or in a magazine or something that you would like to do, so you run out and buy all the supplies and get to it?

This is a feeling I know all too well.  Unfortunately I have trouble with distraction and often with finishing things.  I was going over the list of projects I have to complete for the Pearl, and our upcoming camping trip, and it made my husband's head swim.  Some of these will look familiar, and are ongoing projects.  Take the afghan I started about 6 years ago and am still needing to finish for my now 13 year old.  I chose this project because my Gramsy used to make these and it was the only crochet pattern I liked at the time.  It's a very time consuming design though and sadly I decided to make it entirely too big (I started this before I had at least two of my kids) so I am at this point completely bored with it. I will force myself to finish it, I have to.  The boys have had their own for years.



 Remember these??   I had mostly finished this pennant banner for our last camping trip, however since I do things without measuring it was slightly too short.  Partly because when I do a project I usually go big and I wanted it to hang on two sides of The Pearl.  Most people make them to hang on one long side.

Here it is, it would have hung the length of one long side
but I wanted it to also be on the front.  I thought it would
look better along the whole side of the easy up so I
decided to extend it.  














so I finally finished that one...  
 here you see one of my other ongoing 'projects'.  Pointe shoes.



 I tend to juggle my laundry and clothespins when I hang my laundry on my clothes drying rack outside.  I try to be a good 'homesteader' so I get out to hang laundry and take care of the chickens and ducks.  I saw this cute clothespin apron online somewhere and decided to make not one, but two. I could whip these out in a day right.  Plus it was laundry day and I would have lots of use for them. Here you see a partially finished one, that project is sorta stalled out because it rained all week and I couldn't hang laundry outside anyway.  Plus once again ran out of rickrack and had to get to the fabric store.





 I did this to one of the drawers that was offensive looking... It went pretty quickly.


So I went to work on this fine piece of art....
Ideally it was going to resemble this beautiful birds nest I saw in Cloth, Paper, Scissors to go in the Pearl for my teeny collection of stuff from our travels.  IE: rocks and stuff.  I know, it looks like a mess.  It seems pretty straightforward building a birds nest, well let me tell you I have a whole lot more respect for our fine feathered friends after taking on this project.  How they accomplish this feat without two hands and thumbs is beyond me.  At one point I wanted to throw it.  (One of my girl's got the job of making the bird, I was over it by then).






Then there was the french memo board I have wanted to make for about 10 years, maybe longer.  But now the Pearl has a place for one so I decided to tackle it now.  Guess I should have ironed the fabric though, and I ran out of ribbon so that went on hold.  


Then I saw these darling little owl's on Pinterest.  Aha, the Pearl needs one of those!  I thought.  So I whipped this one up in one evening.  It's hideous and chubby, but those are my Gramsy's buttons from her button jar that I used for the eyes so she has some sentimental value.  
And no, that's not a cute pink smile, it's a beak, but I couldn't find my yellow embroidery floss.  Could you imagine if I was ADD and a perfectionist??  I think I'd drive myself mad.  A couple of my girls ended up loving it and now want me to whip up a couple more.  
It looked cute when I cut it out. 
stuffing it made it not so cute
 
Oh yeah, and just for kicks, in all my spare time I decided to take on crocheting a granny square a day.  Here is my progress.  The internet maybe should be kept away from ADD people....













This is the granny square afghan I started also for The Pearl.  This Vintage trailer project sure has given me a lot of other projects to add to my ever growing list.  And a new found love of all things vintage.  Since I don't get out much and have no one to go antiquing with I end up fashioning a lot of things myself.






Finally, got out to the store for more ribbon, and was able to put the finishing touches on the french memo board.  Gramsy's buttons.  Are you noticing a theme here?

Again one evening on the internet I came across embroidered items.  Hey, my Gramsy taught me how to embroider about 30 years ago, and I've wanted to pick it up again ever since.
So I drew some simple mushrooms and started with that...  
then I found this....



 Kinda put up curtains when we last went camping for some privacy, but still have to stitch all of them properly.  And make tie backs.  I'm hung up on the measuring.  I tend to overwhelm myself.   Ideally I am going to stitch curtains for every window with beautiful vintage (guess who's) buttons on the tie backs.  Sparkly!

And then there's my art, which has seriously been neglected.  I managed to finish this painting and another I will reveal later.


 The mushrooms came out adorable, and now I've started on my second embroidered test subject.  It's tough to have so many projects, be distracted by shiny things, and have precious little time left after raising a family.

Ok, now for a note.  You've probably noticed that I did not include pictures of the items I saw online and in magazines that I was making for myself.  There is a good reason for that.  It would be completely embarassing, so forget it.

Also I'm not joking about the ADD.  I was diagnosed with adult ADD a couple of years ago and am on meds for that too.  My kids joke with me by saying "oooh shiny!" and know I am easily distracted.  Some days I feel a lot like Dory from Finding Nemo.   I've always been someone who talks to myself and find I have to remind myself to 'just keep swimming'....